"No Exit" - Inside the World of the Victim

Come and take my hand

Come on baby and be my man

cuz I love you cuz I want you

Do you not see that I alone?

my baby

love me baby

I need baby

Do you not see that I alone?

("Rescue Me" - Words and Music Fontella Bass, Raynard Miner and Carl Smith Copyright 1965, Hal Leonard Corporation)

"We focus on the negative, losing themselves in the" problem ". Please note our unfortunate circumstances to rationalize our negative feelings. It is a simple way. It should, indeed, very little effort to feel the victim." - Elizabeth Kubler -Ross

whining, pessimistic, complaining, fear, feeling consistently disrespected, unworthy, and inadequate -. This is a world of victims of

The victims are essentially "harmless" if left alone. But the downside is most of the victims is their need to save themselves - physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually or mentally, and as such are always on the lookout for a "savior" - at work, at home, at play and relationships.

By the way, victims are not "bad" or wrong. "The truth is, 99.9% of the victims have no idea why they feel and act like victims. They just do. It is a pattern of behavior. Has never explored his past, victims have no idea how their family upbringing and past experiences influenced their world view .

victims come from families where parents or primary caregivers are consistently more critical. The victims were raised to believe that they were never "good (ie, smart, beautiful, funny, serious, tall, religious enough ...." So they live a life wrapped up in failure and shame, and their defense is to blame others and seek out those who can "save them from themselves" - that is, the rescuers

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Victims are drawn to the rescuers like bees to honey. The victims are seeking a "savior" in (depending on the cooperation and dysfunctional relationship with) your friends, colleagues, spouses, partners, friends, coaches, therapists, and finally, in the form of "savior" -. Some form of God

nothing and nobody can make a sacrifice. We do it to, when we allow external circumstances to retain power over us.

While we have no control over what happens to us, we always have choices in how we respond. We believe we can, we accept full responsibility for their thoughts, feelings, and (re) action.

"A man can fall many times, but it will not be a failure until he says someone pushed him." Elmer G. Lettermant

It is important to understand that most of our problems - physical, social, personal, emotional, spiritual and psychological - are the result of a lack of correspondence or alignment between the ego, mind and soul: that is, equilateral harmony between the ego (mind, personality, usual pattern of behavior), spirit (inner wisdom, guidance, discernment, intuition, truth and love) and soul ("draft" and the determinants of their life purpose, "down here", which includes the expression that you really - your real and Real self ).

When we are in touch with our inner self, our soul and our spirit, when we are lacking to match (ie when I am alone rules our lives), we look outside ourselves for someone or something to blame for our sacrifice.

This is our soul that causes us to seek deeper meaning in our experiences and the spirit that helps us discern what is the meaning and to continue to experience. I

for the sacrifice, pain and suffering - at any level - activating unconscious blocks and defensive stav.Ja I was ill equipped to deal with the pain and suffering. Our soul and spirit, in tandem, are what allow us to "see" our block and defense and to work with them to let them go. Victims living in an existential world, "No Exit ."

Victims are more focused on what they want, with the support of the litany of assumptions, misperceptions, misconceptions, misunderstandings and "story" about why life is cruel, and why the world is unsafe. They are constantly on the alert for "danger" - people, places, events and circumstances

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Life is a choice. Victims may choose to be helpless (although most would never admit it) and live with the consequences of such choices. They feel powerless, helpless, hopeless, abandoned and desperate.

No one can make us a victim. It is a choice. Victims choose (though often unconsciously) to be victims. For victims, it is always a "him, her, him or them", which is responsible for their victims, the cabinet. They gave away their power.

Yes, we can not control all the people, places, events and circumstances that happen on the road, we always have a choice how we react. We have the power to take charge and responsibility for our thoughts, feelings, emotions and actions.

"Way Out"

When we create congruence and alignment between the ego and the soul and spirit, we know that it is always "Exit". This correspondence between the ego and the soul and spirit is what enables and supports us to move from a sense of powerlessness they feel powerful.

way out of victimization is simple - accountability and self-responsibility. Accountability and self-responsibility of the tools that we release from the sand of victimization (where suffering, addiction, anger, martyrdom and desperation take over and keep us stuck). When we become responsible and self-responsible, we choose to have ownership of our actions and to achieve the (real) results we have set for yourself.

This is where the soul and spirit to align with egom.Izlaz is to reflect, early and often, and discover how you have contributed to the victim-hood, even if you think that something is "beyond me" to the problem.

People who have pride in their logic, rationality, mental strength, analytical skills, as if the people who usually push back against reality. These are the people who were often "unconsciously" -. People who get caught in their stories, illusions, self-deception, misperceptions, and disappointment

Most often, it is here, in which we find one is to create our own reality. And that "aha" is the path that leads to fresh air and exit.

So, some questions for self-reflection are:

There are areas of your life where you consider yourself a victim? Do you ever consider how they can contribute to your sense of sacrifice? How do you feel when you even consider this question? Has anyone ever suggested you were acting like a victim? What is it like to hear it? Did you ever feel like a victim when you were growing up? Are your parents or primary caregivers ever make you feel as if they were not "good enough"? Did you parents or primary caregivers all openly or covertly show to feel like a victim? Do you have a spiritual life - ie, meditation, self-reflect, journal, walking quietly in nature, and so on? What do you think "blueprint" for your life, that your life purpose, or why you are "down here ?"